Sad songs usually only be worshiped by people that is not feeling that flash. Christina Perri’s Jar of Heart is terribly sad song. So sad  you can even get a goose bumps.Hear it yourself. Let us be sad for a moment.

I don’t usually like a sad song.But a very good sad song probably worth mentioning here. It’s 2010 song and made popular after contestant if “So You Think You Can Dance” TV show use it for their performance. The rest is history.

The song storyline is very common among young (and old) people: broken hearted person who angry with the ex because the ex want to come back after painful break-up. But finally come to term with the grief and take the life back! Let’s hear it!

The Sing-A-Long Version

Jar of Heart

Singer: Christina Perri
Written By: Christina Perri, Drew Lawrence, Barrett Yeretsian
Atlantic Record
Flash video from Youtube

No! I can’t take one more step toward you
Cause all that waiting is regret
Don’t you know I am not your ghost anymore
You lost the love I love the most

I learn to live half alive
Now you want me one more time
Who do you think you are
Running ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of Heart
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So, don’t come back for me
Who do you think you are….

I hear you’re asking all around
If I am anywhere to be found
But I have grown too strong
To ever fall back in your arms


Dear, It took so long just to feel alright
Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
I wish I have missed the first time that we kiss
Cause you broke all your promises
And now you’re back
You don’t get to get me back

Tearing It Apart

[Christina Perri Photo]

Christina Perri: powerful autobiography song. Photo courtesy of

Broken relationship happen all the time. But some will feel worse than the others,and you probably agree that the worst one is not necessary the one you love the most, but usually the first or second one.

Why? Because after second one you will be already develop some skill about managing attachment. You here that cliche “If you love him/her you need to let him/her go” – this is quite true. You can see this more clearly when your love one die. It is natural you are a bit sad. But, you will not be sad forever, right? So, the day you decide to move on, is that mean your love gone? No! It’s the attachment that disappears: You still love her/him but she/he doesn’t need to be within arm reach.

In this case, obviously Christina Perri got  a bit of trouble with attachment: “Cause all that waiting is regret“,  “Dear, It took so long just to feel alright“.
And because of that she suffer the consequences: “I learn to live half alive“.

I would think the ideal breaking up should just last for 1 day. Break-up fight at 7pm, cry a little, then say  Christina Perri’s for 10x (as part of the very important grieving process), cry again and just wake up the next morning like nothing happen. You ditch the sadness. (nNot just pretend, but totally remove the attachment) Yes, it’s easier said than done but we should aim for that.

Back to Christina, she actually do subtle mistake most of us made. Obviously she treasured the relationship, right ? ” You lost the love I love the most“. But she also regreted the starting point “I wish I have missed the first time that we kiss“. In my opinion this is not right, we should still cherish and grateful with all the beautiful moment. What happen next is after the fact that has nothing to do with the cause of the break-up. ” Cause you broke all your promises” – this nothing to do with the beautiful first kiss, right ? So, regret only the bad things, don’t regret the good things. This way, the universe will give you even better good things over and over again. But if you regret the beautiful thing, you are telling the universe you do not want that kind thing again.

One last thing, you actually will never get cold from any coldness. This is busted urban myth. You get cold from virus. :-) Yeah, yeah, it’s just a song, but to be technically correct she need to sing “You will catch a cold from the virus inside your soul“, right ?

I actually listen maybe a dozen of covers of this song via You Tube. None of them can match how Christina Perri deliver this song. So powerful, well, powerfully sad. Maybe because she said this song was her personal experience. You can feel the strong energy when she sing it. The closest that I like probably the cover by Sam Tsui . While the vocal is good, unfortunately he chose to use guitar with quite upbeat rhythm. Definitely not good for this song.

Warning: this song can make your mood two notch down. My tips: After enjoying it, just shake your body, at least your  hand, to shiver the sadness away.

The Original Version:

I think I need to stop my rumble….
I hope you enjoy this intermezzo….


If You are Really Sad….

First of all, my sympathy to you…. But whatever causing it and no matter it tears your heart apart, you need to promise me that you will move on as soon as possible.

Remember, you are in control of your own emotion. Not that person who make you sad… Show that person that you are strong, you are fine and whatever that person did have only little effect to you. Don’t let that person win.
But if your sadness is due to something wrong that you do, forget the past. Just focus to the future ahead.

Whatever the reason that make you angry or sad, the first step of recovery is to talk it to somebody else: brother, sister,mum, dad, friends. Do not be ashamed – every single person on earth is very sad sometime in their life. To make it more bearable and to make sure it will not affect the rest of your life, you need to talk it through.

If no one is available around and you are in Australia, please talk this 24-hours crisis line: 13 11 14 (this superb free support run by charity organization Lifeline , cost of local call in Australia)

In the meantime, you may sing-a-long with Christina couple more time, feel your pain, feel your grief… cry a little….. then drink a glass of water and make that call!
God Bless!